by Margie | Nov 19, 2014 | Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Self
People often deny their anger at the same time that they hold on to it. Don’t be afraid to recognize that you’re angry. Denying your anger fuels hostility, grudges, and the sense of being a victim. It is important for couples to get their issues out into the open,...
by Margie | Jun 2, 2014 | Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Self
One of the many benefits of mindfulness practice is that it helps us cultivate “affect tolerance.” We learn how to tolerate our emotions, particularly painful ones, without running away from them. When we spend time allowing ourselves to experience our feelings...
by Margie | May 26, 2014 | Self, Tip
In his best-selling book, Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff (And It’s All Small Stuff), Richard Carlson offers 100 suggestions for keeping life in perspective. Here are 3 of my favorites: 1) Choose Being Kind Over Being Right: We are often tempted to “correct people,” to...
by Margie | May 19, 2014 | Marriage, Parenting, Relationships, Self
How we communicate our displeasure can make all the difference in the world to the quality of your relationship. John Gottman (Why Marriages Succeed or Fail) points out the distinctions between a complaint, a criticism, and contempt. A complaint is a specific...
by Margie | May 12, 2014 | Marriage, Relationships, Self, Tip
Psychologist John Gottman is a pioneer in researching marriage, studying thousands of couples for over 4 decades! He is renowned for his ability to predict—with 94% accuracy—which couples will stay married and which will divorce, by listening to their...