Marriage

8 Tips for Intimate Couple Relationships

May 6, 2013 by Margie

1. Spend time together, being attentive, responsive, nurturing, caring, and affectionate toward each other.

2. Respect your partner’s needs for private and alone time. Avoid possessiveness and jealousy.

3. Communicate openly: Listen with an open heart. Make yourself known and visible to the other.

4. Avoid aggressive criticism and personal attacks.

5. Don’t attempt to dominate your partner when you disagree with each other. Stand up for yourself without putting your partner down.

6. Don’t assume that you know your partner’s thoughts, feelings, and wishes better than your partner does.

7. Keep in mind the big picture—that it is more important to be intimate than to be right.

8. If you have overreacted or hurt your partner’s feelings, have the courage to apologize.

Good Relationship Advice To Think About

March 11, 2013 by Margie

Good relationships do not create themselves. There are many different skills and strategies to create a long lasting, intimate relationship. When you have been with your partner for a long time, it is easy to forget how important spending time together is. A good relationship takes time and commitment. Instead of spending “leftover” time together, plan fun time together as a priority. As one of my professors once said, “that is not the icing on the cake. That IS the cake.” Enjoy! Also, when you spend time together, let each other know how you feel, what is really in your heart and on your mind. Do not only talk about superficial, factual things. Sharing your true feelings and thoughts with each can foster trust and intimacy. See if you can share with a positive attitude, keeping in mind your goal of the kind of relationship you want to create.

To learn more and read other good relationship advice and tips, feel feel to browse my other posts. If you would like to make an appointment, contact me here or call (973) 220-9007.

Are you unsure if you want to stay in your marriage?

March 4, 2013 by Margie

To stay in your marriage or not to stay in your marriage? That is the question.

Sometimes it seems easier to end your current marriage than to resolve to strengthen the one you have. Many marriages that seem incompatible can be transformed into satisfying relationships when partners choose to make mindful, positive changes in the way they relate to each other. Don’t give up too quickly. Give me a call if you are stuck. There is too much at stake to give up easily.

I understand it can be intimidating or scary to come to therapy. When you choose to see a professional counselor, you will learn skills to improve your marriage. There are always two sides to every story and sometimes it helps to have a third party to help facilitate discussion.

If you are having a rough patch in your marriage and would like to schedule an appointment to work on your relationship, please give me a call at 973-220-9007 or contact me by clicking here.