One of the many benefits of mindfulness practice is that it helps us cultivate “affect tolerance.” We learn how to tolerate our emotions, particularly painful ones, without running away from them. When we spend time allowing ourselves to experience our feelings without escaping into entertainment or distraction, we become better at tolerating discomfort.
When we learn how to endure and embrace our own emotions, we can also practice being with all the emotions that arise in relationships. If we are no longer so afraid of having our feelings hurt, we can be more flexible and open in our relationships. Learning to tolerate our feelings helps us listen to others, to be with them in their feelings.This empathy helps relationships deepen. If we attempt to avoid discomfort, it can isolate us from others. If we choose not to expose our vulnerabilities to others, we end up alone.
Being able to share and communicate our emotions, including our vulnerabilities, helps us feel close in love relationships and friendships. Practice tolerating, embracing and sharing your emotions with significant others in your life. You’ll be glad you did! Embracing Emotions